5 Reasons Your Adult Children May Need Help Financially

As noted in our recent post, Should You Help Your Adult Children Financially?, the children of the Boomer generation have faced a different financial landscape as compared to their parents.

The situation is not confined to the United States. For example, Chinese workers between 16 and 24 are experiencing a 21.3% unemployment rate, spurring a trend of some parents paying their adult children the equivalent of a full-time salary to live at home and help around the house. Some call it being paid to be a kid.

While no similar trend has been reported in the U.S., post-Boomer generations struggle with specific impediments in their quest for financial independence. 

1. Housing Blues

Housing costs have prevented young adults from progressing financially. A 2021 CNBC analysis showed that between 1965 and 2020, home prices exploded by 118% compared to a mere 15% increase in household income during the same period after adjusting for inflation.

Growth in U.S. home values outpaces that of incomes since 1965

This has resulted in Millennials (adults aged 28-44) lagging the Boomer and Gen X generations in home ownership by age 30, according to Apartment List's 2023 Millennial Homeownership Report.


Homeownership by Age 30

Millennials (1979-1995)


Gen X (1964-1978)


Baby Boomers (1946-1963)


Silent Generation (1925-1945)



Another way to look at this is that, in 1981, the average home buyer was between 25-34. Today, the average homebuyer is 44.

Further analysis in the report also showed that Millennials who still rent have become increasingly pessimistic about ever becoming homeowners in recent years. In 2018, 13% said they expected to be renters forever. By 2022, this jumped to nearly 25%. Although the pandemic was partly responsible for the sharp increase, the overall rise in the cost of buying a home is likely the main driver of this trend.

Those who rent are not immune from rising costs. Average monthly rents have increased 8.85% per year since 1980, while inflation over the same was 3.09% on average.

For those adult children who buy a home, parents frequently help financially, usually by contributing via gift or loan for a downpayment. Of homebuyers between the ages of 24-32, 22% depended on help from a friend or family member. Also, in the same age group who saved up for a downpayment, student loans, and credit card debt were major factors in extending the time needed to accumulate the money by a median of three years.

2. Student Loan Load

According to data from the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES), average undergraduate college tuition cost more than tripled from 1963 ($4,336 in 2020 dollars) to 2020 ($13,777). When federally guaranteed student loans debuted in 1965, many Boomers with college degrees often could cover higher education costs through employment earnings, help from their families, scholarships, etc. Their children were not so fortunate since these money sources were not enough to keep up with runaway tuition inflation.

As a result, student loan indebtedness has ballooned to $1.78 trillion with an average monthly payment of $503, which the typical borrower will pay for 20 years.

This has had a profound impact on the financial stability and wealth-building ability of student loan borrowers, who generally range from 20 to 40 years. As author Anya Kamenetz (Generation Debt, 2006) states, these borrowers are "waiting longer to get married and have children, making people less likely to own a home, start a business or leave their hometowns."

Want to learn more about helping your children financially? Click here or the button below to download our Helping Your Adult Children Financially: Volume 1 – Why They Need Help eBook.

3. Credit Card and Other Debt Burdens

America's love affair with credit cards and other forms of debt has grown to record levels across all generations. For example, the Federal Reserve reported that credit card debt is nearly a trillion dollars ($988 billion) as of June 2023.

It's not just credit cards. Averages for the other major non-mortgage debt types show that households of all ages carry a significant amount of debt.

Average Non-Mortgage Debt Balances by Generation

Debt type (balances) Gen Z Millennials Gen X Boomers
Auto $9,894 $14,836 $16,836 $10,611
Credit card $2,789 $6,408 $8,917 $7,564
Student loan $7,067 $15,014 $12,680 $5,083
Personal loan $1,915 $5,299 $7,348 $5,050
Total $21,665 $41,557 $45,781 $28,308

Source: LendingTree analysis of more than 150,000 anonymized credit reports on the LendingTree platform.

 Not surprisingly, Gen X and Millennials carry the biggest load. They are the ones most likely to be simultaneously saddled with both looming college costs and caring for aging parents. Members of Gen Z, on the other hand, are early in their financial journey, so they have had less time to experience the financial burdens faced by their older siblings.

In any case, paying off debt restricts opportunities to amass wealth. As noted above, Boomers have paid off more of their debt load, so they potentially have more financial flexibility to help their adult children with their debts. 

4. Childcare Burden

Adult children with children of their own shoulder a significant cost burden. According to 2020 figures from the Economic Policy Institute, U.S. households with children spend between 19% to 29% of their income on child care. The actual amounts vary based on location, number of children, and type of care.

Young workers depend on stable employment as one of the top ways to build wealth. Yet, a 2022 study by the bipartisan Council for a Strong America found that problems resulting from expensive and difficult-to-find childcare resources were hurting young working parents at their jobs. These parents were experiencing:

  • Less time at work
  • Lower effort and productivity at work
  • Work disruptions
  • Diminished career pathways
Been late for work 64%
Left work early 64%
Missed a full day of work 58%
Been distracted to the point of being less productive 53%
Missed part of the middle of work shift 44%
Reduced your regular work hours 44%
Turned down a new job offer 41%
Had your pay or hours reduced 37%
Turned down further education/training 36%
Had problems participating in work-related education/training 33%
Changed from full-time to part-time work 33%
Been reprimanded by a supervisor 30%
Turned down a promotion/ reassignment 28%
Quit a job 26%
Been let go or fired 23%
Been demoted or transferred to a less desirable position 17%

5. Retirement Savings Barriers

With income failing to keep pace with rising costs, it's no wonder post-Boomer generations are struggling to achieve financial independence. This pressure also negatively impacts retirement savings. The Goldman Sachs Retirement Survey & Insights Report 2022 showed that post-Boomer generations perceive significantly more impediments to retirement savings.

What Affected Your Ability to Save for Retirement?

Impacted Savings Ability Boomers
Gen X
Gen Z
Too many monthly expenses 56% 72% 84% 82%
Caring for or financially supporting family members 38% 63% 79% 75%
Paying down existing loans, including student loans 36% 59% 76% 75%
Time out of the workforce for child or elder care 31% 55% 72% 75%
Credit card debt 40% 55% 71% 58%
Saving for college 14% 43% 67% 63%
Other financial hardships 51% 67% 76% 79%

One piece of good news is that
 many members of the post-Boomer generations are saving for retirement. Also, of those saving, the younger they are, the sooner they started. However, given the median amount saved so far, many members of all three generations have a long way to go before they accumulate meaningful savings to achieve a comfortable retirement. Sadly, about one in ten of each generation have $0 in retirement savings.

Generation Age Started Saving*
Estimated Median
(including $0)
No Retirement Savings
Gen X (1964-1978) 30 $82K 11%
Millennials (1979-1995) 25 $49K 10%
Gen Z (1996-2012) 19 $29K 9%
* Workers who are saving for retirement through an employer-sponsored retirement plan and/or outside of work.

The Bottom Line: The Kids Could Use Some Help

The financial obstacles faced by the post-Boomer generations are significant. Boomer parents who are lucky enough to have some free financial resources to help their adult children would be addressing some real needs. However, it's important to make an objective assessment of your resources before you throw out a lifeline. In an upcoming post, we'll explore some ideas to ensure you preserve your own financial health as you consider helping your adult children.

Click here or the button below to subscribe to our blog!